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Underwater We Can’t Be Together

Are we all living underwater?

Aurora has always been a favorite artist of mine ever since I discovered her song called: “Murder Song”. The tone and words articulated immediately captivated my attention for reasons that may seem trivial to some. The detailed story telling painted a gruesomely vivid imagery of “US”, citizens of this world, as emotionally damaged. Obviously you’ll argue that not all individuals are emotionally damaged and my rebuke would be to ask the 29 million people who viewed the song on youtube, add that by the number of spotify/apple/amazon streams and for analytical accuracy multiply that by the magic number 3. That should give an accurate estimate, right? Maybe not, but the point is that people in such a state of mind find the song captivating. If you think about the booming success “Emo” music has enjoyed these past few years compared to other genres, it should paint you a clear picture of our state of mind as a society. But I digress. 

To paint the picture of how I ended up on Aurora’s playlist today, it started with a normal lazy day listening to music. We just got off a celebratory phase with Independence Day and here I am enjoying my time off work, listening to music and analyzing lyrics. (Hooray to corporate America for such eccentric perks) As my songs shuffle one after another, a song by Haiva Ru comes on called: “Wildflowers”. I heard it before. To be fair, I thoroughly enjoyed the melody and the instruments the first time I heard the song. I can recall a few words when it comes on but I mostly like the song because of the melody. Suddenly, a thought crossed my mind. Phrases from a past conversation with a friend over 4th of July constantly echoed. Phrases such as – Happiness, sadness, sins of the father and mother, relationships, building or upholding a community, caring..ect. We discussed on a micro level how the butterfly effect is much bigger than we had originally imagined. “Maybe we should write a paper on this?” I told my friend, even though I knew we most likely wouldn’t because of the time it would take. The idea stuck to mind after he left and it sincerely nagged me to the bone. Oddly enough, those thoughts propelled me to look up the lyrics to Haiva’s songs this afternoon. As I read them without the music in the background, a small patch of fog dissipated from my mind. I loaded a second song by her and read the lyrics. A second patch of fog left my mind. I tried to understand the message she was trying to share. Following a few reads, I immediately looked for similarities which caused me to tumble back to Aurora. 

As I carefully read the lyrics to Aurora’s song called: “Running with the wolves”, I think it’s safe to say that I experienced an epiphany like never before. So, I loaded another song called: “Underwater”. After days of battling with the idea of writing the piece regarding “The real butterfly effect and society’s collective state of mind”, I became victorious. The lyrics to “Underwater” served as a catalyst for me to begin writing the piece my friend and I lightly shrugged to the side. To make sense of our vision, here are the lyrics which stuck out the most:

Under the water we can’t breathe, we can’t breathe

Under the water we die

Under the water there is no one watching

Under the water we are alone

Then why do we jump in?

So many souls, that lost control

Where did they fall?

Into the deep, what do they seek?

Where did they fall?

Hearts will dream again

Lungs will breathe in

Wash away the sins

It’s where it begins

Feet won’t fail you now

Arms won’t let you down


In the next coming weeks, I am going to share with you all a handful of original articles which in the end will hopefully merge into a cohesive narration of “The real butterfly effect and society’s collective state of mind”. It’s hopefully going to answer questions such as: “Why do we do the things we do? Why aren’t we doing the things we’re supposed to be doing? How does it impact those around us? How does it impact our community? How does it impact the world?” The lyrics above encompass the present with a melancholic tone and end with hope. My goal is to mimic Aurora’s delivery and bring you 6 robust chapters answering the questions mentioned above with revelations from current events and possibly solutions to issues deeply aching us to our core.

Family Vs. Friends

The word family for some is defined by the bonds accumulated over time with blood relatives. To others, it means the strong bonds and relations birthed and maintained with individuals who aren’t of shared descent. In both contexts, we tried our best on Friday to understand the dynamic between the two and tried to understand if one held more weight than the other. Can a bond between a mother/father and a son/daughter ever be replicated between friends? 

Some concluded that it sure can. I believe the natural fabric or essence of family extends beyond blood relatives. It may seem or sound foreign to many people but it has happened and it continues to. I believe a friend can be there to pick up the slack of a lackluster or absent parent to another friend without a doubt if the occasion presented itself. Some argued that limitations may arise and to that I agree. Expecting to receive identical parental treatment of endless patience and love – given to us by our parents – from a friend could be classified as foolish thought, however; it shouldn’t deter us from believing that a friend may be capable of those traits. And if you do come across such a friend, be open and be glad to call them family. In the end, family is what you make of it. I’m sure you’ve all heard that axiom one too many times but it’s true. I stand as an example of someone who has received such treatment from people who aren’t of my descent. These individuals are rare but they exist. 

So in the end, if you already have such a friend, be sure to let him/her know how much you appreciate them for being in your life and make them aware of how proud you are to have them as part of your family. And lastly, if you are that friend to someone else, I commend you for stepping up to the plate and carrying out such an altruist act. 

SDR Wednesday Memo 12/30/2020

Hope this holiday has been treating you all well. Hope you all received gifts you’ve been dreaming of all year and with that satisfaction, hope you all took it upon yourselves to make someone else’s holiday just as satisfactory. My brother and I received flashlights, so we’re patiently waiting for a power outage any moment now.

As we wave 2020 goodbye, a year plagued by a plethora of negative events and sprinkles of positive outcomes, let us look forward to 2021, a year destined to be such a delight – Oh wait: “News just struck that the new Covid-19 strain has officially landed in California and Colorado. It’s much more transmissive, however; there are no current indications that its virulence has increased.” 

WTF!!! Can’t we just catch a break already? –  I hear ya. I totally do. 

All I can leave you all with is a mindset. And what is that mindset? Knowing that you are still in control of your life. Knowing that you are directly responsible for your own happiness and success. Knowing that you can still carve out something out of nothing. Knowing you can still turn this never ending crisis into an opportunity. Knowing that you are not alone in these trying times. Knowing that there’s a new year ahead of you which may bring good or bad times and you’ve begun to develop a strategy to make the most of it. 

SDR Wednesday Memo 12/9/2020

Another week, another hump day coming to a close with a flurry of snow depending on where you live. To be frank, snow has never been my favorite but I can definitely see the appeal, especially for those of you who love winter sports. 
This week, we’ll be piggy backing off last week’s memo regarding the topic of never giving up. I recently picked up this book called “The purpose driven life”. At first glance, it seemed like another self-help, promise to change your life kind of book. Immediately after flipping through a few pages, the author blatantly warns: This is not a self-help book. This book will not help you find the right career, it will not help you achieve your dreams, plan your life or cram more activities into an overloaded schedule.”  Then, he goes on to state: “On the contrary, it will help you do less by focusing on that matters most.” What matters most? – you may ask. 

Finding PURPOSE! 

A handful of statements stood out regarding purpose. To share a few: 1) Purpose always produces passion. On the other hand, passion dissipates with a lack of purpose. 2) Knowing your purpose motivates your life.3) Knowing your purpose simplifies your life.4) Knowing your purpose focuses your life.5) Those without a purpose try to do too much, eventually becoming gyroscopes, spinning around endlessly without going anywhere.
After reading a few chapters, especially note 5, something suddenly clicked. Many of us may feel like gyroscopes at times. As we try to fill our lives with meaningful activities and goals, we may get the sensation that we aren’t progressing at the pace we wished for. So naturally, we become inclined to give up on our goals and pursue new ones. Maybe it’s time we start asking ourselves, why do we tend to easily give up on our goals or newly adopted activities? Do we lack purpose? Do you lack purpose? And if you do, how can you obtain it? 
Just something for your sharp minds to ponder for the remainder of the week. 

SDR Wednesday Memo 12/2/2020

The warm weather is slowly dissipating while winter is brazenly knocking at our doorsteps. But that’s okay, thank God for artificial heat right? Or the Romans, or Franz San Galli, or John Evelyn’s. At this point, you pick, Google can’t seem to give a clear answer.
Jokes aside, this week, we will be briefly brushing on the meaning behind the phrase – “Never giving up”. 

At some point in our younger lives, we all set out to achieve an absurd goal. A goal so enormous, your parents and friends looked at you with muddled eyes and inadvertently sat you down and revealed to you how foolish you sounded without truly knowing the consequences and impact of their words. Anyone remember having that conversation? If not, then you’re definitely an outlier. As long as I can remember, I always wanted to play American Football as a profession. I was obsessed with the sport. I recall spending hours upon hours watching games, highlights and film. However; since my parents didn’t approve of my choice, they did all they could to discourage me from playing. So like all teenagers, I’d sneak out of the house after school to attend the practices in the spring. At every school discussion or gatherings, when the question “what do you want to be when you grow up” was brought to our attention, I’d always say year after year – To be in the NFL. I was so obsessed, I’d repeatedly tell myself I’d play without pay if I had to. I was dedicated – possibly delusional – but very dedicated. So much so, I had to get my coaches to visit my house year after year to convince my parents to let me play. They thought I was decent, so they visited only to be politely shown out of the house. Then, after many attempts without real results, the time came and I threw in the towel. I had succumbed to pressure and gave up.

The reason for sharing this story is to smoothly transition to a talk recently given by my kickboxing trainer and his long time friend Bryan Robinson who played at Wesley College, later for an NFL club dubbed the Arizona Cardinals and soon after landed in the AFL (Arena Football League). At every stage of his career, he constantly worked hard, conquered the odds and dedicated his breath and sweat to achieve one goal – being the best at his profession. He never gave up! 
Now that we are all older, a bit more mature, we take on new goals to prove to ourselves that we are capable. That we are more than what society has in store for us. Whatever goal(s) you may have or plan to have in the near future – whether it be to obtain that new promotion at work, land that first job, buy that new car, volunteer for a humanitarian cause, start or save your relationship, buy that new house, grow mentally or spiritually, become a millionaire or billionaire, build a service to the benefit of your community – I hope you take on the initiative to remind yourself to never give up regardless of outside influences or environmental pressures. You are solely responsible for your goal(s). Like Bryan Robinson, make sure at every step of the way, you pour out every breath and sweat to the fullest. 

What are some goals you have set out for yourself? 
And remember – Never Give Up! 

SDR Wednesday Memo 11/25/20

Hump day is coming to a close while thanksgiving day patiently waits around the corner. This year has been a year to remember or to forget depending on who you talk to. Many have lost while a plethora of others have gained. Tears were shed. Joyous moments were found. Yet through it all, a good majority of us will be gathering at a dinner table tomorrow to give thanks. What does it mean to give thanks? What does it mean when we say we are grateful? 

Recently, the company I work for hired a man in his late twenties to support in the day to day operations. We got off to a good start and ever since, our relationship has matured quite a bit. To describe him as a positive and jovial individual would not do him justice. He constantly walks around with a contagious smile on his face and is always on the prowl to spring a laugh out of someone. Then, one day, while discussing with him the implications of Covid-19 and the nagging feeling of lack of freedom hunting most of the population, he opens up and reveals that he lost his mother to the Ebola virus in 2014. A year prior, his father succumbed from a heart attack. You can imagine my facial expression after his confession. I immediately stopped talking and just listened. He went on for an hour. As I drove home later that evening, I began to ponder the true meaning of gratefulness. I began to question if there’s truly weight to the words “I’m grateful” when spoken into existence. We say and preach it repeatedly, yet at the slightest minute sign of struggle or discomfort, we verbally or physically go off the rails. Are we then really grateful? Or has it become just another unquestioned expression to the likes of “Bless you”

As we gather tomorrow with family members and friends, I hope we can find it within us to contemplate on the meaning of being thankful and grateful. As someone once told me, it’s not something you inherently possess. Instead, it is practiced every day. 
Happy Thanksgiving!